Same-Gender Attraction

In my blog today, I’m going to talk about probably one of the most controversial topics in the world today, same gender attraction. I don’t particularly feel I am worthy to talk about this, one reason being I’ve never had to deal with being attracted to the opposite sex, my second reason is because I’m still forming my opinion on this topic and trying to make sense of the message I want to convey. I’ll make one thing clear, I do have a stance on gay marriage, but that’s not what this blog is about; it’s not to voice my views or opinions, it’s about spreading truth. I’ve seen too many people debate about this on social media.

The one thing I want to touch on is the belief that people who are gay are simply “born that way.” Despite what Macklemore and Lady Gaga have said in their songs, studies have shown evidence against this notion that people are simply born gay. In the article by Dean Byrd titled Homosexuality: Innate and Immutable? What Science Can and Cannot Say a study by Bailey and Pillard on identical twins showed that for every homosexual twin there was about a fifty percent chance that the other twin would also be homosexual. But if the DNA for identical twins is the same, shouldn’t that number be one hundred percent. An argument made was that genes responsible for homosexuality would have disappeared over time from the lack of reproductive activity.

So, if people aren’t born gay, then what does that mean? Well for one it means that it somehow develops in a person as they grow and gain experience in life. There are some factors that can cause this, that don’t affect all people the same way. Some factors include bullying, lack of a father, mother confusion, or a mother who is domineering, inappropriate touch such as being molested, pornography, etc. I feel bad for those who’ve had to experience some of these things and for those who go through life dealing with homosexual tendencies, I imagine it’s a struggle trying to fit into society and to find acceptance with people. I’m happy that there are some out there who have overcome these tendencies and now have heterosexual desires. Here’s a link to a video of some individuals who overcame these homosexual desires called Understanding Same-Sex Attraction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jJhyzqdzpnM.

I mentioned that it’s a struggle for homosexuals to fit into our society when all they have is each other to lean on for support. Our society doesn’t make it easy for them, and doesn’t make it easy for those who are different and not homosexual. We place stereotypes on how men and women should behave and when we see something out of the ordinary we’re quick to judge, or put a label on someone. Amongst younger kids when I was growing up the word “gay” was used way too much. For some kids, when they’re called gay all the time, some will look at some of their gender Atypical behaviors and then call themselves gay. For myself I am a very affectionate and nurturing person, I tend to give people (both boys and girls) hugs and affectionate touch, and that would be seen as gay which it isn’t. I would sometimes share a bed with my best friends, also not gay, but people have a different way of perceiving the world. If we weren’t so quick to judge maybe this wouldn’t be a problem. I think too often with parents, particularly fathers, spend too much time worrying about their sons becoming gay, and in the event that it does happen, a lot of time is spent judging them and trying to “fix” them instead of loving them and trying to understand them and help them through it. Like I said, I don’t know from experience, but it sounds like having homosexual desires is tough. As with all of the world’s challenges, it starts in the home. But I know that there is a solution, and it would take a lot of effort, but I think it’s amazing that there’s help available to those who do struggle with it.